棒下出孝子是华人奉承的习俗,可见在华人家中,透过鞭打让孩子变得乖巧是十分常见的事。父母在教训孩子的同时,也常加上「为你好」的口头禅。所以在电子设备没那么先进的时代,几乎人人都尝过Rotan的滋味,不管是老师还是家长,最后都让孩子因为害怕疼痛而妥协了。

最近就要一名44岁新加坡女星郑秀珍在社交网站分享,自家8岁儿子Zavier 突然要求妈妈鞭打他,措手不及的问题让她愣了,仔细询问后才发现儿子是为了让自己以后长大成为好人,才会有此想法。而郑秀珍的回答不但让孩子了解鞭打教育的用意和坏处,更让一众网友赞叹不已!

以下为该名妈妈和孩子的对话⬇️

孩子:妈妈,你可以鞭打我吗?

妈妈:为什么?!

孩子:我的朋友都被父母鞭打过,但你从未鞭打我,我想长大成为一名好人。如果你鞭打我,我就能成为好人了。

妈妈:不,Zavier。你不顽皮,而且已经是个很贴心的孩子,所以妈妈不会鞭打你。长大后,你会成为一个优秀的人。

孩子:但是妈妈,要是你不鞭打我,我可能会变坏。

妈妈:我不相信恐惧能阻止你做错事。鞭打会造成身体的疼痛,但我们该注重的是你的心和想法。我更倾向于让你明白为什么不能做坏事,并学会对自己的行为负责任。要是你因为害怕我鞭打才学乖,那鞭子不在时,你就会学坏了。这就是我教育孩子的方法,透过解释和引导。你会好好长大的。

孩子:真的吗?那就够了吗?

妈妈:当然了!你应该知道要是你本来就很自律了,那妈妈根本就不需要惩罚你。

该名妈妈还在帖文的最后称赞孩子是个让人心疼的特别孩子,并说道「我爱你儿子」。

当所有人都相信鞭打是最容易教育以及管束孩子的方法时,她让大家知道解释和引导更是一种一劳永逸、并建筑在爱之上的方法。

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Zavier gave me a shock during our bedtime conversation last night. “Mama, can you cane me?” . Me: Why?! . Z: My friends are caned by their parents. You have never caned me or beaten me before. I want to grow up to be good (he started tearing… 😭). If you cane me, I can become a good person (then he sobbed painfully). . Me: No! Zavier. You are already a very understanding boy and you are not naughty. So I don’t have to cane you. You will grow up to be an excellent man. . Z: But mama, if you don’t cane me, I may become bad. . Me: I don’t believe in using fear to stop you from doing wrong. Caning is painful on the skin, but it is your heart and your thinking we need to work on. I prefer to make you understand why you shouldn’t behave wrongly and take responsibility of your own behaviour. If you don’t do wrong only because you fear that I cane you, you will start doing wrong when the cane is not there. This is how I educate my child, by guiding and explanation. You will grow up to be fine. . Z: Really? That is enough? . 💔💔💔 Yes my son! The fact that you know you should be disciplined is definitely enough. I don’t have to raise my hand. Where on earth did you come from? My heart breaks for my 8yr old child to ask for caning . 😭😭😭. You are so special. I love you my son. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ . . #mamanzavier #jacelynphilosophy #zavierwong @zavierdarling

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